Seeking Advice: An Unusual Proposition from an Ex-Husband

Dear Life Advice Society,

I hope this letter finds you well. My name is Caroline, and I am facing a perplexing situation that I never anticipated, and I would greatly appreciate any insights or advice from the readers of your esteemed society.

Twenty years ago, my marriage with my ex-husband, Bryan, ended. Since our divorce, we have had minimal contact, primarily for the sake of our son, Zachary, who is now 22 years old. Recently, Bryan reached out to me with a proposal that has left me quite bewildered.

Bryan has offered to give Zachary his apartment, a gesture that would undoubtedly help our son as he starts his career and adult life. However, Bryan’s offer comes with a highly unusual condition: he wants me to marry him again. This request has shocked me, as our separation was not amicable, and we have moved on with our lives independently.

I am torn because while the apartment would be a significant advantage for Zachary, the idea of remarrying Bryan feels irrational and emotionally complicated. I am unsure how to weigh the benefits for my son against the potential emotional cost to myself. Furthermore, I worry about the implications this could have on our family dynamics and whether this could set a precedent for future manipulations.

I am reaching out to your readers for advice. Has anyone been in a similar situation, or can anyone provide insights into how to handle this delicate issue? Any thoughts on balancing personal boundaries with the desire to help one’s child would be especially helpful.

Thank you for considering my dilemma. I look forward to any guidance you can provide.

Warm regards,

Caroline