Need Advice: My Sister Doesn’t Appreciate My Help

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice and thought this would be the best place to get some honest opinions. So, here’s the deal: I’ve been helping my sister, Nora, for several years now. Whether it’s financial support, emotional backing, or just being there for her whenever she needed me, I’ve always tried to be the best sister I could be. But last weekend, I had a bit of a wake-up call.

We were hanging out, and I casually mentioned how I’ve always been there for her. To my surprise, she got really defensive and said she never saw what I did as “help.” She even went as far as to say that she felt like I was just doing it to make myself feel better. That really hurt because I genuinely thought I was making a positive impact on her life.

I guess I had been wearing rose-colored glasses all this time, thinking that my efforts were appreciated. Now, I’m not so sure. Should I confront her about how I feel? Or should I just back off and let her come to me if she needs anything? I’m really torn here.

Kyle, Jeffrey, Alexa, Neveah—any advice you guys have would be super helpful. Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? I’m feeling pretty lost right now and could use some guidance.

Thanks in advance!