Help! My Mother-in-Law Wants to Move In!

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice and I thought this would be the best place to get some honest opinions. So, here’s the deal: My wife, Isabella, and I are in the process of buying our first home together. We’ve been looking at a few options, and we’re super excited about it. But there’s a bit of a hiccup.

Isabella’s mom, Violet, has been hinting (okay, more like outright saying) that she wants to move in with us once we get the place. She’s been having some health issues and thinks it would be easier if she lived with us. I totally get that family is important and we should help out when we can, but I’m not sure I’m ready for this level of commitment.

I mean, we’re just starting our lives together and I feel like having Violet move in would change the whole dynamic. Plus, I’ve heard too many horror stories about living with in-laws. I don’t want to end up resenting her or causing tension between Isabella and me.

I’ve tried talking to Isabella about it, but she’s really close to her mom and feels like it’s our duty to take care of her. I suggested maybe finding a place nearby for Violet so we can still be there for her without all living under the same roof, but Isabella isn’t too keen on that idea.

So, what do you guys think? Am I being unreasonable? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Any advice would be super appreciated!

Thanks,

Robert