“Take Him In, Forever – Said Our Daughter”: Mom, We’ll Miss Him, But We’ll Visit Occasionally
“Take him in, forever,” our daughter, Emily, said one evening over dinner. My husband, John, and I exchanged glances, our forks frozen mid-air. Our grandson, Ethan, was playing with his toy cars on the living room floor, blissfully unaware of the gravity of the conversation happening just a few feet away.
“Emily, are you sure about this?” I asked, my voice trembling slightly. “We’ll miss him terribly, but we’ll visit occasionally,” she replied, her eyes avoiding mine.
Emily had always been a free spirit. She married young and had Ethan when she was just 22. Her husband, Mark, was a good man but often away on business trips. Over the years, Emily had grown restless. She wanted to travel, to explore the world beyond our small town in Ohio. But with Ethan in tow, her dreams seemed perpetually out of reach.
John and I had always been there for Emily. We helped her through college, supported her during her early years of marriage, and were there when Ethan was born. But this request felt different. It felt final.
“Mom, Dad,” Emily continued, “I need to do this for myself. I need to find out who I am outside of being a mother and a wife.”
John cleared his throat. “Emily, we love Ethan dearly. But are you sure this is what you want? What about Mark?”
“Mark understands,” she said quickly. “We’ve talked about it. He’ll be traveling even more for work now, and it just makes sense for Ethan to stay with you.”
I looked at Ethan, his innocent face lighting up as he made car noises. How could we say no? But how could we say yes?
“Alright,” I finally said, my heart heavy. “But promise us you’ll visit often.”
Emily nodded, but her eyes told a different story.
The first few weeks were a whirlwind. Ethan adjusted quickly to our home. We enrolled him in the local elementary school, and he made friends easily. John and I found joy in the little things—helping him with homework, attending his soccer games, and reading bedtime stories.
But as the months passed, Emily’s visits became less frequent. Her calls were sporadic, often filled with tales of her adventures in Europe or Asia. Mark’s visits were even rarer; his work had taken him to the West Coast.
Ethan started asking questions. “When is Mommy coming to visit?” “Why doesn’t Daddy call?” Each question felt like a dagger to my heart.
One evening, as I tucked Ethan into bed, he looked up at me with tear-filled eyes. “Grandma, do Mommy and Daddy still love me?”
I hugged him tightly. “Of course they do, sweetheart. They’re just busy right now.”
But even I wasn’t sure anymore.
Years went by. Ethan grew into a fine young man. He excelled in school and sports, but there was always a sadness in his eyes—a longing for the parents who had left him behind.
Emily’s visits became almost non-existent. She sent postcards from exotic locations and occasionally called on holidays. Mark’s career took him further away, and he eventually stopped visiting altogether.
One day, Ethan came home from school with a letter in his hand. “Grandma, it’s from Mom,” he said excitedly.
I opened the letter with trembling hands. It was short and to the point.
“Dear Mom and Dad,
I’ve decided to stay abroad permanently. I’ve found a new life here that makes me happy. Please take care of Ethan for me.
Love,
Emily”
I felt a mix of anger and sorrow wash over me. How could she abandon her own son? How could she be so selfish?
John and I did our best to fill the void in Ethan’s life, but we knew we could never replace his parents. The years went by, and Ethan grew up with a resilience that both amazed and saddened us.
He graduated high school with honors and received a scholarship to a prestigious university. As he packed his bags for college, he hugged us tightly.
“Thank you for everything,” he said softly. “I wouldn’t be who I am without you.”
As we watched him drive away, I couldn’t help but feel a deep sense of loss—not just for Ethan, but for the family we once were.