Seeking Advice: Did I Make the Right Decision in Asking My Son and Daughter-in-Law to Leave?

Dear Life Advice Society,

I find myself in a troubling situation and am in desperate need of guidance and perspective from this supportive community. My name is Gabriella, and last night, I made one of the hardest decisions of my life: I told my son, Michael, and his wife, Ellie, that they need to pack their things and leave my home by tomorrow.

For years, I’ve opened my home to them, hoping to provide support as they navigated the early years of their marriage. However, the situation has become unbearable. The constant tension, lack of privacy, and disrespect for my boundaries have taken a severe toll on my mental and emotional health. Last night, after yet another argument that ended in hurtful words, I reached my breaking point. I told them, “Tomorrow, you are packing up and moving out. I can no longer live in this state.”

I am torn between my duty as a mother and my need to look after my own well-being. The guilt is overwhelming, and I am unsure if I made the right decision. Did I act too hastily? Should I have found a different solution that didn’t involve asking them to leave?

I would greatly appreciate any advice, personal stories, or words of encouragement from anyone who has faced a similar situation. How do you manage the balance between supporting your children and maintaining your own health and happiness?

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts and suggestions.

Warm regards,

Gabriella