Seeking Advice on Family Financial Secrecy

Dear Society Members,

I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to seek your advice on a matter that has been weighing heavily on my heart. My son, Albert, has been very generous and has been transferring a significant portion of his salary to me every month to help with my expenses. While I am deeply grateful for his support, there is a condition attached to his generosity that troubles me. Albert has explicitly asked me not to mention these transactions to his wife, Ariana.

I am torn between gratitude for my son’s help and discomfort about keeping this secret from Ariana, who is not only my daughter-in-law but also a valued member of our family. I understand that financial matters within a family can be sensitive, and perhaps Albert has reasons he hasn’t disclosed to me. However, the secrecy concerns me, and I fear it could lead to misunderstandings or hurt feelings if ever revealed.

I am reaching out to you all for guidance on how to handle this situation. Should I respect my son’s wishes and keep this matter between us? Or should I encourage him to be transparent with Ariana about our arrangement? I worry about the potential impact on their marriage and our family dynamics if this secret comes to light in the future.

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I am looking forward to your thoughts and advice on this delicate matter.

Warm regards,

Violet