From Real Life: “I Want to Finally Live for Myself, Not Just for My Family”
Sometimes, change feels impossible. At 70 years old, I find myself in a deep depression because I never truly lived my own life.
Sometimes, change feels impossible. At 70 years old, I find myself in a deep depression because I never truly lived my own life.
My job rarely offers anything exciting. I sit in my office, analyze data all day, and then head home. Since most of my colleagues are women, I don’t even have anyone to grab a beer with on a Friday night. My friends are busy, and my wife has stopped spending time with me
Sometimes life takes unexpected turns. I married not out of love, but because I had to. Sarah and I met at a friend’s party, shared a few fleeting moments, and then went our separate ways. Months later, we discovered she was pregnant. Neither of us was thrilled about marriage, but our parents insisted.
Recently, my only daughter, Emily, expressed her disappointment in me for not being able to provide her with financial support. Her in-laws, on the other hand, are always there to help them out. But how can I, a retired school teacher, be compared to her husband’s wealthy parents? I had Emily later in life, at the age of 42, after years of trying with my late husband
I have two children, four grandchildren, and two daughters-in-law, yet I lived like a recluse. But when I mentioned leaving my house to my niece, they suddenly showed up and caused a scene. It’s now clear that all they want from me is my property. I had hoped my children would support me in my old age, but instead
My mom always treated me and my sister, Emily, equally. It never crossed my mind that she would leave me out of her will. Ever since I saw that piece of paper, we’ve had terrible fights. Even though I now understand that my mom didn’t mean to hurt me, I can’t forgive her.
When my daughter couldn’t take her son to daycare due to illness, I stepped in. My eldest granddaughter, 18, was off to college and had appointments, leaving me with a challenging day that turned into a heartwarming experience.
“Look at this cool gadget!” My sister boasted to our cousin at a family gathering. “Mom gave it to me as a gift, and it’s so expensive!” It was the health monitoring device I had given our elderly mother for her birthday. I had spent weeks searching for the perfect one because my mom has high blood pressure and other health issues
Until I was three years old, I believed my name was “Pumpkin.” Why? Because that’s what my dad called me. As I grew into a teenager, this affectionate nickname took on a different meaning as I began to see the complexities in my father’s behavior.
I met Emily in college. Emily believes she made a mistake when she married for the first time. Her second marriage was more of a practical decision. In neither marriage could Emily have children. It was all about the Cinderella syndrome. She believed a man should adore her and treat her like a queen. But that rarely works out in real life
My daughter-in-law works in New York City. When our children got married, she couldn’t attend the wedding but sent a generous gift. The young couple started their life in a rented apartment. After retiring, I had plenty of free time. A year after the wedding, I found myself caring for my grandson. However, life took an unexpected turn
Honestly, my daughter and I never had a particularly close relationship. From childhood, Emily was always a very reserved child, and I never had the time to find common ground with her, to try to make her open up and decide to talk to me. I worked hard, trying to provide a happy life for both of us. Her father left us when she was just a baby, and