Seeking Advice on Family Boundaries and Respect

Hi everyone,

I hope you’re all doing well. I’m in a bit of a dilemma and could really use some advice from this wonderful community. Here’s the situation:

Recently, my cousin Ruby had a wedding, and I wasn’t invited. When I asked why, I was told that I’m considered an “outsider” and not really part of the close family circle. It hurt, but I tried to move past it.

Now, a few weeks later, Ruby and her new husband, Vincent, are looking for a place to stay temporarily. They reached out to me, saying, “After all, you are family,” and asked if they could stay in my apartment for a while.

I’m feeling really conflicted. On one hand, I want to help them because they are family, but on the other hand, I feel hurt and used because of how they treated me regarding the wedding. I don’t want to create any family drama, but I also don’t want to be taken advantage of.

What would you do in my situation? How can I set boundaries without causing a rift? Any advice on how to handle this delicately would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much for your help!

Best,

Ellie