Seeking Advice: Financial Demands from Mother-in-Law After Father-in-Law’s Departure

Dear Society Members,

I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to seek your advice on a delicate family matter that has been causing stress in our household. Recently, my father-in-law, Joe, left my mother-in-law, Victoria, to start a new life with another woman. This event has been difficult for everyone, but now a new challenge has arisen.

Since Joe’s departure, Victoria has been struggling to maintain their family home on her own. She has approached my husband, Brian, asking for financial assistance to carry out necessary renovations on the house. While we understand her predicament and sympathize with her situation, this request has put us in a difficult position.

It’s important to mention that in the past, when we needed help, Victoria explicitly told us, “Nie liczcie na naszą pomoc!” which translates to “Don’t count on our help!” This statement was made during a time when we were in a tight spot and could have used their support.

Given this history, we are torn about how to respond to her current request. On one hand, we feel it might be our duty to help family in need, but on the other, her previous refusal to help us has left us hesitant.

I would greatly appreciate any advice or perspectives from fellow readers on how to handle this situation. Should we set aside past grievances and help Victoria with the renovations, or should we remind her of her own words and decline her request?

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I look forward to your insights.

Warm regards,

Ruby