After my mother-in-law, Ellie, moved in with us following my father-in-law’s death, our family life unraveled as my husband and I clashed over her needs, her behavior, and our own boundaries. I struggled to balance compassion with frustration, watching my marriage and sanity fray with every tense dinner and whispered argument. Now, I wonder if I made the right choices and whether anyone else has faced the same impossible dilemma.